Becoming Financially Independent: How to Change Your Financial Status and Find Freedom After Abuse
Financial independence is a key component of freedom—especially when leaving an abusive situation. If you’re reading this, you may feel trapped, exhausted, and unsure of how to break free. It’s hard when you're financially dependent on someone who’s hurting you, and the thought of leaving can seem overwhelming. But here’s the truth: God never intended for us to live in bondage to anyone, including our financial circumstances. He is a provider, and He wants to help you break free from those financial limitations and step into the freedom you deserve.
The Power of Financial Freedom in Christ
It’s natural to feel overwhelmed when you think about finances, especially when you’re unsure how you’ll make it on your own. Maybe you're thinking, "I can't leave because I don’t know how I’ll survive financially." But Philippians 4:19 reminds us, "God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus." He is bigger than your financial situation.
I know it’s hard to trust that right now, but God’s provision doesn’t depend on your circumstances. It depends on His ability to work through small steps of faith. And when you take those steps, even when you can’t see the full picture, God will open doors that you never expected—through a new job, creative opportunities, or even business ideas that were always waiting inside you. Trust that financial freedom is possible through Christ.
A Story of Financial Transformation
Take Lisa, for example. She had been in an abusive relationship for years, financially dependent on her partner. When she first thought about leaving, she felt paralyzed with fear—fear of not having enough money, fear of not being able to support herself, fear of failing. But after prayer and seeking guidance, Lisa took one small step: she reached out to a financial advisor who helped her start budgeting and reducing debt.
It wasn’t easy, but Lisa didn’t do it alone. With God’s help, she found ways to earn extra income by starting a small online business selling handmade jewelry. It started slow, but as she continued to work hard, God provided her with more opportunities. One step at a time, Lisa built enough financial security to leave the relationship and create a new life—one where she was no longer defined by the abuse or financial dependence.
Lisa's story is proof that financial independence after abuse is possible—through faith, support, and small, consistent actions.
Steps to Financial Independence After Abuse
It’s understandable if you’re feeling scared or unsure about how to take your first step. Let me reassure you: it’s okay to start small. Every little victory will add up, and with God’s help, you’ll make progress.
1. Start with Prayer and Trust in God's Provision
Start by asking God for wisdom, guidance, and provision. Prayer isn’t just about asking for help; it’s about aligning your heart with God’s will and trusting that He will guide your every step. Pray that He opens doors for you and provides opportunities for financial freedom.
Example Prayer:
“Lord, I feel trapped and uncertain about how to move forward. But I trust in Your provision. I ask You to guide me toward the resources I need to become financially independent. Help me take one step at a time and trust You with the rest.”
2. Set Realistic Financial Goals
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when thinking about your entire financial future. Instead of trying to solve everything at once, break it down into manageable steps. Maybe it’s finding a job, paying off a small debt, or even opening a savings account for the first time. Celebrate each win.
Example Goals:
Find a stable job or increase your hours
Save $100 toward an emergency fund
Pay off one credit card or small debt
3. Develop New Skills or Explore Entrepreneurship
Many people in abusive situations are not given the chance to develop or use their talents. Now is the time to explore your skills and passions. You may be surprised at what you can do with a little creativity and determination.
Consider taking free or low-cost courses in fields like:
Digital marketing (many free courses are available on platforms like Coursera or Udemy)
Graphic design
Freelance writing or social media management
Virtual assistance
Starting a small business is another great way to generate income. You could try your hand at selling homemade crafts, tutoring, freelance writing, or even providing virtual assistance services. God has already equipped you with the skills you need; it’s just about discovering them.
4. Find Support and Community
You do not have to do this alone. Reach out to trusted mentors, financial advisors, or support groups to help you navigate the financial landscape. Christian organizations, like Christian Financial Counseling or Crown Financial Ministries, can provide both spiritual and financial guidance.
You may also want to connect with local resources that can help you as you transition out of an abusive situation. Many domestic violence shelters and organizations provide financial literacy programs and help with housing or employment.
Crown Financial Ministries: Offers faith-based financial planning tools and resources.
Financial Peace University: A great course to help you learn to budget, save, and eliminate debt.
Local Shelters and Support Programs: Many shelters offer financial literacy courses and programs for women escaping domestic violence.
5. Save and Build a Budget
Even if you can only save a small amount at first, it’s important to start. Open a savings account (if you don’t already have one) and start building an emergency fund. Budget your expenses so you know exactly where your money is going. The more intentional you are about saving, the more control you will have over your future.
Trusting God in the Process
Faith in the Financial Journey
Trust God in the process of rebuilding your financial future. He will guide you through each step, transforming your struggles into strength and leading you toward the freedom and independence you deserve.
I know the road ahead can seem overwhelming, especially when you’re not sure where to start. But remember, God is with you every step of the way. He will not leave you to navigate this alone. As you trust Him and take those small steps, He will help you find a way to achieve the financial independence you seek.
God’s promise in Matthew 7:7 is clear: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Keep knocking, keep seeking, and trust that God will open doors of opportunity for you.
Key Takeaways:
It’s okay to start small: Every step you take toward financial independence is a victory, no matter how small it seems.
Financial freedom is possible: With faith, support, and practical steps, you can break free from financial dependency and build a future of independence.
You are not alone: There are countless resources—both spiritual and practical—to help you on this journey toward freedom.
Take Action Toward Financial Independence Today
If you're ready to take the next step toward financial freedom but aren’t sure where to start, I’m here to help. As a faith-based mentor, I combine practical financial guidance with spiritual encouragement to support you on your journey. Together, we’ll work on creating a realistic financial plan, setting achievable goals, and trusting God to provide every step of the way.
While I’m not a financial advisor, I can walk alongside you to build a solid foundation and help you gain the confidence you need to take charge of your financial future.
Contact me for a free consultation, and let’s begin this journey toward financial independence together. You are worthy of freedom, and you don’t have to do it alone.
Final Thoughts:
Remember, it’s okay to start small. Every step you take toward financial independence is progress and a victory in itself.
Financial freedom is within reach. With faith, support, and practical actions, you can break free from financial dependency and build a better future.
You don’t have to do this alone. There are countless resources—both spiritual and practical—available to guide and support you along the way.
Take the First Step Toward Breaking Free from Self-Doubt
As you embark on the journey toward financial freedom, remember that the road to confidence and self-belief starts with small, intentional steps. Trust in God’s provision, and know that He has equipped you to succeed, even when self-doubt tries to hold you back.
In my upcoming article, Escaping the Cycle of Self-Doubt: A Holistic Approach, we’ll dive deeper into how to break free from those negative thoughts that keep you stuck. I’ll share actionable strategies for strengthening your confidence, trusting in God's plan, and tapping into your God-given potential.
Together, we'll explore how to confront fear, silence the inner critic, and create new habits that nurture both your spiritual and mental well-being. God has a future of hope and purpose for you—it’s time to claim it!
